Friday, July 26, 2013

Winging it...

Just like these blogs, I'm winging my life and the decisions it entails to assure myself some sanity, happiness and well being. Every decision I want to make I have to weigh out all the factors. Do I really want that play date with that rambunctious child? But my son's happiness is put before mine and I go along. Should I feel bad as I am sitting in my kitchen writing this blog to just say that I have someone to talk to as I hear my son talking to himself, pretending he's Tony Stark playing with his own imagination... The guilt is taking over me and I have to remind myself that I am his everything and that mommy too needs just some time to herself. But I feel so bad!!
Don't! I tell myself! My sons are well fed and well taken care if. They are blessed in so many ways.
The hardest part is being so far away from your family and friends. Seven years and I still get home sick. But my family is here now and my oldest has come up to pull my hair off my shoulders and I get chills by the affection and gentleness he's offering me right now. All in the while talking to me smoothly that if I don't share my ipad, he won't share his stickers. Haha!
I have so many questions and all the answers will just be a reflection for his tomorrow. So how do I know I'm doing the right thing? If I can't stand a certain person, do I expose my son to them with limitations or do I go with the flow until he's old enough to make his own judgement?
I've found myself distant from everyone here. I don't trust, but should I make that ok for my son? Can allow him to trust?
Being in a positive environment means the world to me for my little guys. Maybe I'm sheltering them from reality, but its actually reality that I want them to face and be real people. Not superficial.
I want them to show who they are, how they feel on the outside as the inside. I trust that I'm giving them the best values, such as I know them and none other.
Theirs no text book on how to do anything. What obstacles you'll confront and the best options to get through them. But I do know this: if I follow my heart, I know the truth is there. And when I decline my heart, I only learn down the line that I should never have neglected it in the first place.
On this note, I could practically continue typing with my noes as my oldest has completely taken over my space here and mommy duty calls for me once again!

Take care all!! Feedback is much appreciated! Just inbox me your thoughts! Maybe we have something in common!!

Debbie xoxo

Saturday, July 13, 2013

Should you be sleeping in your bra?

Let me put it this way…either your breasts are supported for 8 hours…or they are not.

Personally, I prefer the support.  But I’ve always wondered if it was good for you?

Sagging or changes in the breast are due to pregnancy and breastfeeding, along with time and gravity.  And speaking of gravity, if your breasts are being held up, they're going to stay up a lot longer. When you take your bra off at the end of the day, they're a lot higher than when you put it on in the morning.  Right?

This may very well be another beauty myth of an old wives tale or it could be a matter of fact. I can tell you this though, there is no real connection between sleeping in a bra and breast cancer; however wearing a bra at night could offer more support or comfort, if needed.

Women with A or B cups probably don’t think about this, but women with D-DD cups might. It can’t be completely uncomfortable sleeping in your bra if you choose the right one. You might want to rethink an underwire because that will definitely cause discomfort and even bruising where parts are being dug in to your skin..
 
I wear a bra to sleep because it feels more comfortable.  And with more reason seeing that I wake up to two beautiful boys every morning, who knows what the day will entail so I consider myself half dressed by just keeping my bra on from the day straight into the night.

If you’re thinking about this, and you’re about to embark as a first time “overnight bra-wearer” your best bet is to choose a lightweight, non-underwire bra.  I love the camisole pajamas with the built in support.  

But ladies, don’t get too comfortable with this.  I’m all about staying comfy but DO wear a supported bra that accentuate and flatter your boobs rather than making them look like they’ve dropped down to your waist line.  Young or old, get yourself measured properly and invest in a good bra and wear it proud!

 

 

 

Thursday, July 4, 2013

It's the weekeeeeend!! Woot! Woot!

Happy 4th of July everyone! Today officially marks not only the beginning of summer, but many, many weekend trips to the shore. Personally, I don't own a shore house nor do we spend our weekends there; but I've made enough travels in my current lifetime to know that packing less is more!

So for all you proud American beauties, I'm narrowing down your packing (as far as clothing) right here! Get a pen and paper handy, this is your go-to check list:

1. Chic Glasses
Protect your eyes from squinting and crows feet with a pair of chic glasses, oversized and with a brown tint in them.

2. Versatile Sandals
And by this, I don't mean 32 pairs as "just in case" back up sandals. Think wisely, a pair for the sandy beach and maybe another pair for taking a walk down the boardwalk.

3. White Tank
There is no better top like the perfect white tank! When you are most stuck of what you're going to pair a bottom with, a white top will never, ever fail you!

4. Light weight jeans
Because jeans are not only casual anymore. These days you dress them up or down, you'll be rocking denim either way.

5. A Straw Tote
It's not only to pack your beach towel and sunscreen. Straw Totes are great evening carry-ons and look great with...

6. The perfect summer dress!
Their has to be that perfect dress you just cannot wait to wear this summer! And while your bringing your versatile sandals...you also have the option of dressing up your style with...

7. Nude Heels
They just elongate your legs and after being in the sun all day, you'll have that perfect glow and tan that will just stand out in such a way that your look is worth a million bucks!

8. The classic skirt
And if summer dresses are not our thing, your other option is that classic skirt. No matter what you pair it with, a classic skirt will always stay classic!

9. Lightweight Jacket
Finally, don't forget to add a lightweight jacket or cardigan for the chilly evenings by the water.

Well, here it is ladies! Your weekend checklist! Also, bare in mind that many of these items are nice to mix and match with. Use your imagination, put different looks together and enjoy your weekend rather than stressing about what you pack!